PTSD Suicides

September 28, 2011

PTSD Suicides

Some of my friends have asked me, “Why have you taken on this task of the PTSD Forum ?  What’s in it for you?”  Sounds a bit like the “me first” kind of World that we live in doesn’t it?  The fact is, I’m doing it because I have been touched by PTSD , in my life, a fact that very few of my friends even know about. I have disclosed a bit about this in previous posts.

The final straw, for me, was reading about the Military’s admission that now 18 military men and women, who have served their Country honorably in these Wars, are committing suicide every day.  That’s a little less than one per hour, every day, 365 days a year.  This, by the way, is the tag line that I use with each of my posts.   Every hour of each day we can do something to make a difference in these unfortunate military personnel’s lives plus hundreds of thousands of others who are affected by PTSD.

Suicide does not just happen.  In my work, as an owner of a consulting firm, I used to tell people I managed that to make something happen is a progression.  We don’t go from “A” to “Z” as our first step.  Most everything happens in a logical step by step basis.   Even some things that seem random in Nature, when we look back on them, have happened in a logical and non-random evolutionary way.  We really go from “A” to “B” and then to “C” never from point “A” to point “Z”, NEVER . 

The same thing happens with suicide.  It doesn’t just happen that one day the person wakes up and says to him/herself, “I think I’ll commit suicide today”.  Haven’t we all heard ourselves and others say, “If I had only known, I would have done something” or, “I wish I had paid more attention, than I could have…”   This PTSD suicide rate is an unrelenting statistic and the clock continues to tick.  Tick, tick, tick, by tomorrow when I sit down to post an entry, 18 more military people will have taken their lives as a consequence of PTSD.

I started this Military PTSD Forum because I wanted to try and affect change.  People who are depressed are stuck in this dark place and nothing can seem to shake them from it.  Anger is often a symptom of the greater depression that a PTSD victim or their PTSD spouse suffers.  I am hoping always, that one person will read this post and follow through and pass it on to others they know, to reach out to one more person. 

Often, by the time the PTSD person is thinking about suicide, the PTSD sufferer has gone so far down the road in their decision that the help we can provide is limited.  So we need to reach them sooner.  This site is a word of mouth site, where people that have found life too dark to deal with that they are willing to end their lives rather than go one more day to find a ray of hope.   We need to give PTSD sufferers and their families a chance to start to heal. We are trying to do this, word by word, line by line.  We want them to understand that their healing can begin if they will let someone help them, despite their overwhelming feeling of hopelessness. They have the power to find that light at the end of their own dark tunnel and to find the small light at its end.  It starts with self disclosure. Tell someone who can help you, or someone you know who is in emotional pain.  In addition to getting professional help, which always is the best step, we offer a vehicle in this Military PTSD Forum, where anyone can face their demons without judgment or advice. Your post is your own and is always confidential.

It starts with you, however,  someone that may not have PTSD but who knows someone who does.  It starts with you who may be married to a PTSD victim and has done nothing but endure it to this point.  It starts with you, the PTSD Mother or Father who feels impotent to do anything except watch the tragedy your son or daughter has unfolding before you.  It also starts with you, the survivor of a PTSD suicide who wants to try and keep the next PTSD family from suffering the same thing that you have already endured.  It starts with you who has the power to pass this message on to someone who  may also pass it on.  It is easy to read and say, as I have done, “Someone should do something about those PTSD people”, then do nothing myself. 

I would love to slow that suicide clock down.  It will, if you are willing to pass this on to your followers and to encourage them to do the same.  The most amazing thing about the internet is that a message can cover the World quite quickly, but never quickly enough.  The clock is ticking, tick, tick, tick.  By tomorrow it will already be too late for some.